• Carolyn

10 questions you should ask your 10 year old



As a parent, our role is to try and bring out the best in our kids, to help them to be as well rounded and responsible as possible. In order to do this, it is helpful to at least try and make sense of how they see the world! Because kids see the world very differently than we do. This can be done by asking the right questions which encourages them to think for themselves, thus bringing about a positive change in themselves. Ask them thoughtful questions which inspire conversation and will develop a curious mindset. Open ended questions are a great way of finding out what they are thinking. This will not only enhance your relationship with your children but also help you bond with them, while learning to understand them better.


1. What are 5 words which best describe you?

2. What makes you sad

3. What is the best thing that has happened to you?

4. If you could be invisible for a day, what would you do?

5. What scares you

6. If you could be anyone in the world for one day, who would you be and why?

7. What is the hardest thing about being a kid?

8. If you could invent something that would make life easier for people, what would you invent?

9. What does success mean to you?

10. Is there anything you have ever wanted to ask me or tell me, but didn’t? Do you want to ask me now?

I tried these questions out on my almost 10-year-old, before I posted them here, and I learnt a lot more about him than I thought I knew. I honestly thought that I knew what his answers would be to some of these questions, but boy, did he surprise me!

For example, Question no. 6, If you could be anyone in the world for one day, who would you be and why? I was almost sure he would say he would like to be Superman or Hulk and fight the bad guys. But he chose to be the person in charge of keeping Mumbai clean and pot hole free. Woah, I did not see that coming!


And Question 9, What does success mean to you? He hesitated here, and finally admitted that he thinks “success means having lots of money and a nice house and car, but I know that isn’t the right answer Mama”. Hmmmm….so, I told him a part of his answer was indeed correct, but if all of that isn’t accompanied with humility, happiness and peace, it doesn’t make it truly a successful life.


I am posting this here, on the eve of his 10th birthday, OUR 10th birthday I should say, for I celebrate 10 years of being a mother. WOW, what a journey it has been! From not knowing how to hold him when they handed him over to me in the delivery room, to now being able to do most things with my eyes closed. We have come a long way, Nathan & I. He is my my guinea pig. But more than that, he is my life & my joy and never ceases to make me brim with pride at all his achievements.


Happy 10th Nate!

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